It will be the end of 2022 in two months and some ladies still have that butterfly effect whenever they see their crush. Gone are the days when only men were responsible for initiating friendly discussions or relationship proposals. Today, Nigerian women are smart enough to go for what they want. Remember the popular saying “If the mountain doesn’t come to Mohammed, then Mohammed will go to the mountain.” Funny right? It’s interesting that we have a growing number of couples and happy home today whose relationship and friendship foundation was initiated by the women.
Ladies, it’s time to get out of your shell, boldly and smartly. If you’re crushing on someone, and you don’t know how to make them notice you or develop interest in you, then this article comes in handy for you. Here are five ways you can respectfully shoot an unmissable shot in 2022 as a Naija babe.
Send an engaging first message
Nigerian men claim ladies only know how to send monotonous messages when chatting such as – hello, hi, lol, etc. If you are guilty of sending only these kinds of messages, then you need to tweak your messages a bit. One fascinating way to make your crush notice you is to either use engaging or humourous words while speaking or texting. Start your conversations lightly and develop into more engaging ones once they have your attention. You don’t want to bore them, so think of something interesting to spice up the conversation. It will be even nicer if you know their interest, e.g sport, film, or music.
Laugh at their jokes
Support your crush all the way. LOL. Even when they don’t sound funny, laugh at their jokes and make them feel funny and loved. Men like when they can draw attention with words. Queen, make him feel like a king when he passes a joke around, physically or on social media.
Ask questions about them and pay attention to details
These days, we seem to engaged with our busy lives that we tend to forget even the slightest information about those we claim to love. Once you’ve struck a conversation with your supposed crush, ask interesting questions about them and try not to bug them or be nosy. Find out things such as their interest, location, job, family position, tribe, birth month and dates, etc. These are little but important details essential to keeping and building a relationship on a long term. Don’t forget to wish them a happy birthday when necessary. Most men will feel loved when you remember even the tiniest detail about them.
Follow and like their posts and pictures on social media
This is a strong way to gain attention from someone with a huge following on social media. They will usually get a lot of notifications, so you might want to stand out. Put on their post notification across all social channels and engage their posts meaningfully. Also, like their pictures and drop a respectful comment. This helps them to notice you and likely, you might see them in your DM and might not need to initiate a conversation first.
Send light gifts
People have different love languages, so you might want to consider this when dealing with your crush. There’s this popular opinion about Nigerian men hardly receiving gifts from Nigerian women. Don’t be too fast or desperate, but try sending a light gift like flowers or cards. You can as well be thoughtful by booking them a spa/massage session to ease off stress from work. This makes them believe you have their best wishes at heart.
While there are more things to do, trying out one or more of these will help you get the attention you desire. Don’t forget to maintain confidence and good self esteem. Whatever the case, don’t let your emotions get way ahead you.
Let us know how it goes in the comment section.
